Went to the office today.
It was good and exhausting. Did I rush back? Maybe, but I needed to leave the house.
Cabin fever was setting in.
I’ve been reading a book called, Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. In summary, learning when to say yes and how to say no to take control of your life.
The chapter I’m on is called the Ten Laws of Boundaries. Law #4: The Law of Respect. “We fear that others will not respect our boundaries. …We judge people by their boundaries.” pg. 116
My biggest fear – THEY.
They will be mad if I say No.
They will be upset if I don’t do it.
They will be disappointed if I don’t help.
When I thought that way, I was not free to make my own choice. So, when I acquiesced, I did the task out of fear, which turned into anger, then into resentment.
No more!!
When I respect someone’s choice to say, No, I expect the same in return. There is no judgement because they respect my boundaries. It may not be convenient for me to say no, however, they will find another way to accomplish what I was asked to do.
Now, my part is to let my No be No and my Yes be Yes.
I am not to fret that I have hurt someone with my No. They will find another way.
Boundary drawn…
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